11 thoughts on “Guest & Visitor Open Chat

  1. JoeO

    Welcome, Emily!

    1. Stop trying to stop drinking;
    2. Pray to God as you understand God and ask for His will and direction in your life;
    3. Take the Steps freely shared in “Alcoholics Anonymous”, the book;
    4. Share with others what you learn about yourself and your relations to others and our Maker in our new-found manner of right fellowship and worship!

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    1. Dolly

      This is about the most straight forward answer one could get.
      I will copy this down and continue on and be happy to share it.
      Looking at step 3 now. It’s obvious it is better not to wait to do the steps. Definitey want to take step 3 with someone. Don’t want to let up on the steps as I’m ready now. It’s been 16 days. Yes and the goose hangs high I don’t want to lose this gift of an opportunity. to have a life….And I don’t want to return to that hell. Thanks Joe for being online and for being generous with your time and experience. Dolly

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  2. Kim

    Hi

    I am looking for someone to guide me through the 12 steps online as the nearest aa meeting is 5 hours away. I have recently relapsed and I have manged to stay sober for the last six days. I have to be honest it has not been a very easy 6 days. I have been feeling extremely guilty, I have got literature like the fourth edition of the big book, the book twelve steps and twelve traditions, daily reflections. I am reading at the moment the chapter the doctors option and am reading the daily reflections in the mornings. I know I have to work the 12 steps but I do not know how at the moment. .

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    1. Sarah

      Hi, Kim.

      Sobriety is what makes an alcoholic feel the need for some sort of relief and/or solution, and we do offer that solution. It is natural to not know how to go about proceeding — none of us knew how — so please know there is help available!

      Here among us, we can certainly show you how to take the Steps, if upon examining Steps One and Two, you determine that is what you need and want to do. Consider the idea of *taking* the Steps — leave behind the idea of working them. Working them implies we are still toiling under our own ideas of how to get well using our own (human) power, which we come to understand we completely lack, for a self-determined objective or aim…*taking* the Steps is the act of accepting the new design for living and then being shown how to do so. This takes place once we have completely given up using/trying any of our own methods, and we are now “taking” that which is provided for us in order to get well as we walk the path with those of us who are doing and have done the same.

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    2. Dolly

      Hi Kim iit seems like we are in a similar boat. Let’s continue on from here. I’m trying not to sabatoge myself and stay close to people with an answer.

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  3. Jeff

    My name is Jeff & I am an alcoholic. I have 17 days will be 18 tonight. About 4 yrs ago I had 6 yrs. Been struggling ever since. I’m retired & travel with my wife of 30+yrs.

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    1. JoeO

      Hi, Jeff, and welcome to our site. We can help you figure out what happened and we can show you how we have truly recovered…and we are talking about something far beyond and much more effective than trying to “Don’t drink, one-day-at-a-time.” If we could “Don’t drink”, there would be no need for A.A. And so, it is at Step One that we stop trying to do what we cannot — Give up the fight — and then take the remainder of the Steps to have our problem removed.

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    2. Dolly

      Hi Jeff ……I hope and pray you recover from this deadly illness. There are a couple of people in this group….. and apparently they have stayed sober. Surely if we do what they have done we will also recover. You are not alone!

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  4. Scott smith

    I am trying to convince myself that I have to stop forever. I keep getting 2-3 days sober and then I crash. I am reluctant to get too involved in as because I do not want to explain it to my 8 year old. If I tell him I am an alcoholic and then go back out. He will be confused and or disappointed in me. I am disappointed in myself. Have one as friend that beats me down rather than pump me up. Can I get enough support online to skip out on meetings?

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    1. JoeO

      Hi Scott. Becoming convinced we must stop altogether and forever is typically a conclusion we draw because we cannot guarantee control over our drinking while drinking. As someone had first observed many centuries ago:

      “First the drinker take a drink,” < < an intellectual-emotional desire or obsession for the effect of alcohol

      “Then the drink takes a drink,” < < caused by some abnormal body chemistry over which we have no mental control

      Then drink takes the drinker.” < < early grave or "wet brain" (Organic Brain Syndrome) similar to syphilitic insanity

      Logic (as well as much of Today’s AA) suggests “Don’t take the first drink, one-day-at-a-time, and you cannot end up drunk”, but very few people ever actually stay sober that way. Instead, most just “Don’t take the first drink, one-day-at-a-time” until they end up drunk again…and then rinse-and-repeat until dead.
      Meetings can be optional as long as the Steps are taken, and we happen to be one of the few remaining groups that can show you how you can permanently recover from chronic alcoholism.

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